My mother-in-law goes in for a knee replacement next week. I’m made up for her that she’s having it done, and that, after recovery, life will be much easier and hopefully less painful for her.
So, from mid-September, when we get back from our holiday, Ella will be going to nursery on a Thursday, as well as her usual Tuesday. Usually she spends the day with her nanna on a Thursday, but this won’t be possible for some time.
I’m so so grateful to have help close by. My family live in the Isle of Man. They are a fantastic help, even from such a distance! I’ve regularly asked my mum to combine her visits with times I have work on in far away locations, and on non-nursery days, that require help from Ella waking to going to bed! And my sister and bro-in-law have also come over to stay with Ella while we’ve been away at a wedding.
But, it’s hard that they’re not there for the little times I need. Like the time between nursery closing and me/Sean getting back from work. Never usually a problem if I’m working locally, much more of a problem if I’m working elsewhere in the country.
Sean leaves for work around 6.15am in the morning and gets home around 7pm. Nursery opens 7.30am and closes at 6pm, so it’s really hard for him to help out with the drop offs and pickups.
His mum has, just a couple of times, had Ella overnight to drop her off at nursery the next morning, which I’m hugely grateful for.
And yesterday, Sean’s sister (a teacher on her holidays) picked Ella up from nursery and got her ready for bed, as I was working in Scotland.
I’ve also offloaded her a couple of times on my other sisters-in-law, they’re all such a fantastic help! And I hope they know I’d do the same in return for their kids.
The nature of my job (I work for myself training businesses in social media) means for the most part I can dictate start and end times, and days that I am available, but sometimes that’s not possible. Like if I’m requested to speak at an event that’s not on a Tuesday or Thursday.
Nursery have been so accommodating in allowing Ella to have extra days here and there.
But losing the fallback of my MIL has really made me acknowledge how wonderful having help nearby is. After we get back from holidays, I’ve got a few days where I’m speaking at events across the UK during the day, then local events in the evening, so I’ll be racing back up north to head straight to another speaking gig. And I’m also attending a business conference for 2 days. The anxiety of how this is going to work with Ella is really starting to eat at me. So, Sean has assured me that he can get to work late/leave early, as he’s owed it for staying late now and again. Still it bothers me that I won’t be there to manage it.
I’m definitely blessed in my working position, in that I spend 5 days a week with Ella, work only two, and essentially earn an ok full time wage. It’s taken me a while to get to this point, and a lot of hardwork, and I’ve really made it this way myself so I do get more time as a mum than a business woman.
It’s the times in between that make it harder. But sure, every parent has to face those now and again.
So, a BIG thank you to my family for being on hand when I need them. I’m truly so grateful x